Vision and Self-Esteem 3
THIS IS Leading Right. Welcome. I am Abiodun Fijabi.
We are still continuing with the story of Rose played by Barbra Streisand in the romantic comedy – The Mirror has to faces – that won two academic award nominations.
With disaster staring her in the face, Rose seeks to find out the origin of her low opinion about herself and her lack of drive to improve her self-worth and her physical appeal. Her mom is her first port of call. She wants to know if mom thinks she was beautiful as a baby.
“All babies are pretty.” Her mom’s reply does nothing to assuage her feelings. Rose is not concerned about babies but about baby Rose. Mom has missed the point. She seems to always miss the point. At least, whenever it comes to Rose. Rose chooses confrontation next.
“I never would have thought I wasn’t pretty if it weren’t for those things you said.” Rose’s mind races to her past. Mom’s words hit her hard in the face. All of a sudden, the damage done to her self-image by her mom’s words becomes glaring. She is a product of her mom’s verbal abuse, she concludes.
Mom tries in vain to assure her first child that she means well. But the damage is too deep to be corrected by such half-hearted piety.
Your low opinion about yourself may have come from the words spoken to you by the people whose opinions matter or had mattered to you. Words from parents, uncles, aunties, siblings, peers and teachers carry a lot of weight. We tend to believe what they say about us, whether right or wrong. What a colossal damage people have done to your self-esteem. Your teacher joked about your small stature and called you “Short man devil”. From then, it had stuck. Your mom said you were awkward and slow to think. You believed that and had never considered your self inspiring and intelligent. Your peers jeered at your inability to have a lasting relationship with women. You accepted that and today you have a history of broken relationships. Dad screamed at your adventurous spirit, wondering why you would want to do what no one in your family had done. “What makes you think you are better than others?” And so, you had stopped dreaming big.
The problem is that you believed those words. Because you are a product of words, words continue to play a creative role in your life and future. But not every word spoken about or concerning you affects you. Your life is only moderated by the word you hear and believe. It is this word that becomes like a computer program in your brain, running and operating your life.
To become a great leader with a great vision, it is time you change the program that has for long run your life. Refuse to believe those words that have moderated your life so far. Create a new program that takes into account your hopes and aspirations. Do that today.
We are still continuing with the story of Rose played by Barbra Streisand in the romantic comedy – The Mirror has to faces – that won two academic award nominations.
With disaster staring her in the face, Rose seeks to find out the origin of her low opinion about herself and her lack of drive to improve her self-worth and her physical appeal. Her mom is her first port of call. She wants to know if mom thinks she was beautiful as a baby.
“All babies are pretty.” Her mom’s reply does nothing to assuage her feelings. Rose is not concerned about babies but about baby Rose. Mom has missed the point. She seems to always miss the point. At least, whenever it comes to Rose. Rose chooses confrontation next.
“I never would have thought I wasn’t pretty if it weren’t for those things you said.” Rose’s mind races to her past. Mom’s words hit her hard in the face. All of a sudden, the damage done to her self-image by her mom’s words becomes glaring. She is a product of her mom’s verbal abuse, she concludes.
Mom tries in vain to assure her first child that she means well. But the damage is too deep to be corrected by such half-hearted piety.
Your low opinion about yourself may have come from the words spoken to you by the people whose opinions matter or had mattered to you. Words from parents, uncles, aunties, siblings, peers and teachers carry a lot of weight. We tend to believe what they say about us, whether right or wrong. What a colossal damage people have done to your self-esteem. Your teacher joked about your small stature and called you “Short man devil”. From then, it had stuck. Your mom said you were awkward and slow to think. You believed that and had never considered your self inspiring and intelligent. Your peers jeered at your inability to have a lasting relationship with women. You accepted that and today you have a history of broken relationships. Dad screamed at your adventurous spirit, wondering why you would want to do what no one in your family had done. “What makes you think you are better than others?” And so, you had stopped dreaming big.
The problem is that you believed those words. Because you are a product of words, words continue to play a creative role in your life and future. But not every word spoken about or concerning you affects you. Your life is only moderated by the word you hear and believe. It is this word that becomes like a computer program in your brain, running and operating your life.
To become a great leader with a great vision, it is time you change the program that has for long run your life. Refuse to believe those words that have moderated your life so far. Create a new program that takes into account your hopes and aspirations. Do that today.
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